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devohoneybee at 03:17pm on 19/07/2014
devohoneybee at 03:17pm on 19/07/2014ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Meeting someone reasonable, why so hard?
This guy (blind date from match.com), really nothing terrible, just...
Spent the first 30 minutes of our "brunch date" telling me why he's not eating, even though he invited me for brunch, including a detailed listing of his "supplement product plan alternating dieting and cleansing"...
Didn't give me one compliment or appreciative look (I spent an hour between hair, make-up, and choosing a very fetching outfit showing off my assets)...
Never asked me one question about myself...
Insisted on showing me multiple examples of his "poetry" (not to be too catty about it, but it couldn't be characterized as anything but doggerel... which is fine, doggerel has its place, but...it's better if you KNOW it's doggerel)...
And then started bashing the place I work, and when I asked what he was basing his very broad generalizations on, said, "the news" without anything more specific. As in, "the homeless [specific population] problem is so big and no one at [the place I work] cares." After I explained the 5 residential programs we have for homeless [population], the multiple places we partner with in the community for emergency shelter, and the voucher housing program, he said, "oh." Sure, it's still a big problem, but do not tell me "no one cares" without even a smidgen of curiosity about the actual, you know, data.
*steamed*
Also, he thinks the "date went well."
Thing is, these dates are so few and far between, that when they are happening I keep telling myself to "give it a chance" because, you know, it must be me being too picky or something. So I failed when it came to saying, "actually, for me, it really didn't."
In summary, ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Meeting someone reasonable, why so hard?
This guy (blind date from match.com), really nothing terrible, just...
Spent the first 30 minutes of our "brunch date" telling me why he's not eating, even though he invited me for brunch, including a detailed listing of his "supplement product plan alternating dieting and cleansing"...
Didn't give me one compliment or appreciative look (I spent an hour between hair, make-up, and choosing a very fetching outfit showing off my assets)...
Never asked me one question about myself...
Insisted on showing me multiple examples of his "poetry" (not to be too catty about it, but it couldn't be characterized as anything but doggerel... which is fine, doggerel has its place, but...it's better if you KNOW it's doggerel)...
And then started bashing the place I work, and when I asked what he was basing his very broad generalizations on, said, "the news" without anything more specific. As in, "the homeless [specific population] problem is so big and no one at [the place I work] cares." After I explained the 5 residential programs we have for homeless [population], the multiple places we partner with in the community for emergency shelter, and the voucher housing program, he said, "oh." Sure, it's still a big problem, but do not tell me "no one cares" without even a smidgen of curiosity about the actual, you know, data.
*steamed*
Also, he thinks the "date went well."
Thing is, these dates are so few and far between, that when they are happening I keep telling myself to "give it a chance" because, you know, it must be me being too picky or something. So I failed when it came to saying, "actually, for me, it really didn't."
In summary, ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
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That said, the veggie eggs Benedict served gluten-free on a polenta wafer in place of English muffin WAS delicious.
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Another thought - he probably thinks it went really well because he talked all the time, and you were a polite person and didn't smack him over the head with a giant clue bat. Some people really need a "how to interact with other people" manual. (And sometimes I am one of those people.)
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on another note, how does this wandering in via network page work? *curious*
and thanks for responding! it does make me feel less crazy.
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Also, if you search the entire Dreamwidth site for, say, Captain America, you'll get results from all over. That's kind of "the network," too.
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All so interesting - it sounds like someone who has never been challenged or criticised and really doesn't expect it. Run a mile.
Network = network link on the menu bar, and is same as friends-of-friends on the old livejournal. People hadn't posted enough on my reading page, so I went to explore my network.
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mansplaining, yeah, that. it was worse than bashing the homeless programs -- he wasn't even curious to know that they EXISTED.
the somewhat confusing part is that he does have very many nice characteristics, including the work HE does for a different disadvantaged population, which sounds very sensitive and caring. for example we perused a local bookshop and he was very engaging and enthusiastic about finding appropriate reading material for his group, which i found appealing. i think he's a good guy, but a terrible conversationalist.
that said, good conversation is pretty important to me *cough* spoiled by fandom *cough*
*sigh*
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Insisted on showing me multiple examples of his "poetry" (not to be too catty about it, but it couldn't be characterized as anything but doggerel... which is fine, doggerel has its place, but...it's better if you KNOW it's doggerel)...
On a first date?
ugh.
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AND he thinks it went well. Wow.
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(Did you get my message about the fangirl in your part of the state?)
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re: Network, if you add "network" to your base DW URL, you get a reading list of (I think) all the people your friends read that you don't:
http://devohoneybee.dreamwidth.org/network
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he, um, called again. i have not returned the call.